Balancing Social Activity
Hello, and welcome.
After far too long, we can at last begin to meet up in real life with friends and other loved ones, so it’s no wonder opportunities to socialise are at the top of everyone’s list.
But please, not so fast! In our rush to regain social contact it’s important not to forget that psychological health is all about balance. Being with others is vital, but so is spending some time alone.
Scientists have demonstrated the many gifts that come from periods of solitude. According to Oxford professor Anthony Storr, spending time alone enriches us, allowing time to reflect and to nourish our creative powers. Think of the many highly talented individuals who regularly spent time alone to gather their ideas—Beethoven, Kipling, Beatrix Potter. Reed Larson at the University of Chicago has summarised the findings from a number of studies that focus on solitude. The ability to spend time alone, he discovered, is associated with decreased sadness, depression, boredom and loneliness, and with increased life satisfaction.
By all means enjoy (safely) your newly-granted freedom to socialise a bit more. But at the same time, I urge you to spend an hour or two every week alone as well, free of other human company (dogs are allowed). No goals or rules allowed during that time—just let your mind wander, go where it will. You’ll come away calmer, wiser and refreshed.
Let me leave you with my favourite definition of solitude. It comes from the Norwegian philosopher Markku Koivusalo, who describes time alone as a ‘withdrawal into one’s chosen peace’.
Enjoy.
Linda